What Is Domestic Violence?

Power & Control Wheel

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 Domestic violence (also called intimate partner violence (IPV), domestic abuse or relationship abuse) is a pattern of behaviors used by one partner to maintain power and control over another partner in an intimate relationship.

Domestic violence does not discriminate. Anyone of any race, age, sexual orientation, religion or gender can be a victim – or perpetrator – of domestic violence. It can happen to people who are married, living together or who are dating. It affects people of all socioeconomic backgrounds and education levels.

Domestic violence includes behaviors that physically harm, arouse fear, prevent a partner from doing what they wish or force them to behave in ways they do not want. It includes the use of physical and sexual violence, threats and intimidation, emotional abuse and economic deprivation. Many of these different forms of domestic violence/abuse can be occurring at any one time within the same intimate relationship.

Here at The Hotline, we use the Power & Control Wheel* to describe most accurately what occurs in an abusive relationship.


 

Are you being abused? Are you an abuser? Do you know your relationship rights?

Does your partner…


Constantly ridicule or insult you?

Become extremely jealous?

Undermine your sense of power or confidence?

Keep you financially dependent?

Make you account for every minute you are not together?

Manipulate you with lies, contradictions, or promises?

Prevent you from seeing your friends and family?

Get angry when you disagree?

Make you ask for permission before you go out, get a job, or go to school?

Abuse your pet to frighten you?

Destroy your property?

Restrain you?

Throw objects at you?

Threaten you with weapons or objects?

Threaten to hurt your children?

Hit, slap, punch, shove, kick, or otherwise physically abuse you?

Force you into unwanted sexual situations?

If you answered "yes" to one or more of these questions, you may be a victim of domestic violence.


Warning Signs of Domestic Violence

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It’s not always easy to tell at the beginning of a relationship if it will become abusive.

In fact, many abusive partners may seem absolutely perfect in the early stages of a relationship. Possessive and controlling behaviors don’t always appear overnight, but rather emerge and intensify as the relationship grows.

Domestic violence doesn’t look the same in every relationship because every relationship is different. But one thing most abusive relationships have in common is that the abusive partner does many different kinds of things to have more power and control over their partner.

Some of the signs of an abusive relationship include a partner who:

  • Tells you that you can never do anything right
  • Shows extreme jealousy of your friends and time spent away
  • Keeps you or discourages you from seeing friends or family members
  • Insults, demeans or shames you with put-downs
  • Controls every penny spent in the household
  • Takes your money or refuses to give you money for necessary expenses
  • Looks at you or acts in ways that scare you
  • Controls who you see, where you go, or what you do
  • Prevents you from making your own decisions
  • Tells you that you are a bad parent or threatens to harm or take away your children
  • Prevents you from working or attending school
  • Destroys your property or threatens to hurt or kill your pets
  • Intimidates you with guns, knives or other weapons
  • Pressures you to have sex when you don’t want to or do things sexually you’re not comfortable with
  • Pressures you to use drugs or alcohol

“Why Don’t They Just Leave?”

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 People who have never been abused often wonder why a person wouldn’t just leave an abusive relationship. They don’t understand that leaving can be more complicated than it seems.

Leaving is often the most dangerous time for a victim of abuse, because abuse is about power and control. When a victim leaves, they are taking control and threatening the abusive partner’s power, which could cause the abusive partner to retaliate in very destructive ways.

Aside from this danger, there are many reasons why people stay in abusive relationships. Here are just a few of the common ones:

  • Fear: A person may be afraid of what will happen if they decide to leave the relationship.
  • Believing Abuse is Normal: A person may not know what a healthy relationship looks like, perhaps from growing up in an environment where abuse was common, and they may not recognize that their relationship is unhealthy.
  • Fear of Being Outed: If someone is in an LGBTQ relationship and has not yet come out to everyone, their partner may threaten to reveal this secret.
  • Embarrassment or Shame: It’s often difficult for someone to admit that they’ve been abused. They may feel they’ve done something wrong by becoming involved with an abusive partner. They may also worry that their friends and family will judge them.
  • Low Self-Esteem: When an abusive partner constantly puts someone down and blames them for the abuse, it can be easy for the victim to believe those statements and think that the abuse is their fault.


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Our services

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how can we help

  

 We provide immediate assistance to victims of domestic violence and put them on the path to independence our program is  specifically designed for women and children escaping domestic abuse. Our Advocates provides everything from health referrals, counseling, and transportation to NA/AA meetings, parenting classes, employment assistance, and permanent housing placement. We also offer children an opportunity to have their own Child Advocate. The location of the facility is kept private for the safety of our clients. We provide help, assistance, guidance and support to help victims become survivors.


  • We staff a domestic violence hotline 24/7: 702-707-3050.
  • We are the only domestic abuse crisis intervention provider that provides outreach services in Las Vegas NV area
  •  We offer emergency relocation assistance
  • Clothing replacement 
  • SNAP/Medicaid Assistance
  • Emergency transportation
  • Language line to assist victims in more than 40 languages.
  • We offer individual counseling for adult, youth and child victims.
  • We offer individualized safety planning for adults and children to meet their immediate needs whether living in the abusive home or separate from the abuser.
  •  We have support groups for victims/survivors of all forms of domestic violence and sexual abuse.
  • We offer support to parents to build parenting skills and lessen parental stress.
  • Advocates that offers counseling and play groups for children while parents attend a support group.
  • We offer care for children while parent is in a counseling session.
  • Court assists with civil restraining orders and family court issues, protective orders when there has been an arrest, and guidance though the court systems.
  • Safety planning  

what to expect when you call the hotline

  

24/7/365 Hotline is our confidential crisis hotline, 702-707-3050 (collect calls accepted). You may be feeling anxious or nervous about your call, so here are some of the things you can expect:


• The call will be confidential, and you can remain anonymous You will be asked if your calling from a Mobile device, if so, you will receive a link via. Text Message to complete intake paperwork. This will allow immediate referral assistance 


• We will want to know that you are in a safe place to talk: It is important for your safety that you call when the person abusing you is not around. If that person does walk in while you are on the phone with us, you can immediately disconnect the call. Also remember to delete our number from your phone or clean your internet browser history after visiting our website. http://www.thedockellisfoundation.org 


• We will ask you about your situation: To help you, we will ask more information about your specific situation


• We will ask you what you have considered doing: We want to understand what steps you might be interested in taking.


• We will ask you how you are taking care of yourself: We know it is easy to forget about caring for yourself and may have suggestions to help you.


• We will want to brainstorm with you on things you can do to feel safe.


• What else can we help you with? You may have questions that come up during your call, and we are available to talk to you. If you have more questions, don’t hesitate to ask!


Our advocates will let you know of some different courses of action, but we will not judge you regarding what decisions you make.

Meet our clients

Cheryll G.

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Ms. Cheryl Contacted Dock Ellis Foundation worried about her living arraignments. Dock Ellis Foundation advised Ms. Cheryll we are going to do everything we can to assist her, Within one hour the Director personally  assisted our client and shortly after and the same day Cheryll was approved to move into a studio apartment "Good Luck Cherlly!"

Rhonda S.

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Ms. Rhonda has been working with Dock Ellis Foundation on living a better life. Jasmine became Rhonda's Advocate in 2018 and the connection between the two has only grown from Advocate to sisters at heart. we are proud to say Rhonda has used her experience, strength and hope to make great changes in her life. 

Homeless community

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Dock Ellis Foundation continues to provide services for the homeless community. Providing food, clothing and other resources. While our mission is Domestic Violence, we will always make ourselves available for anyone in need. 

Missing Children & Sex Trafficking

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Dock Ellis Foundation assisted participated in The Big Search 2019.  Over 8,000 children are reported missing each year in Nevada, and approximately 200 are considered endangered or abducted, according the the Nevada's Missing Children Clearinghouse. Nevada Child Seekers was created in 1985 in response to these alarming statistics to address the plight of missing children in our communities 

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